Time For Change? How Long Does Healing Take?
How many sessions do I need? How many classes until I feel better?
Are probably the question I am asked most. The truth is I don’t know yet. Why? Because we all respond differently to change and growth. And yes, I see many therapists advertising that in just one session you can have amazing results. Is this true? Of course it is!
But is one session going to be enough time to change a lifetime of habits, allow me to teach you the skills and exercises that will maintain progress, and allow us to watch you grow and flourish as a person and work with the next level of healing?
No, not in my opinion.
Positive change can happen in a matter of minutes, but true transformation is a wonderful process of healing and it’s something I believe is lost in the rush of everyday life.
In a world where information, connection to others and the things we want, are all at the push of a button and the tips of our fingers, our idea of time has actually changed. It’s no wonder really, when we are bombarded by products and gimmicks promoting instant results.
So instead of wondering, "how many sessions do I need" the real question to ponder is “Do we really finish growing as an individual”
Do we ever really finish learning about ourselves?
No of course not. There will always be the next level of healing, the next step on your journey and the next challenge that may throw you off course. Because every year, new challenges arise. And part of growing and healing emotionally is also accepting that we will always be a work in progress.
And yes, right now you might be thinking of someone who seems to have it made, seems to have the perfect life or just seems to succeed at everything they do. But underneath the surface of it all, everyone has something they struggle with, need help with or find frustrating.
Just because we are a work in progress doesn’t mean we should work with a coach or therapist forever. Nor does it mean we need to spend hours in classes, or hours Meditating.
But, we can learn a little more self love, patience and acceptance, knowing that who we are, is always changing and adapting. My mentor reminded us that we really are all like an onion, once you work on some area of life, you will eventually notice something else about yourself you want to work on, and then - peel back another layer. But once healed, you become ready to grow again, and shift yet another layer.
So for those wondering how long it will take, or how many sessions/classes they might need, perhaps the real question is,
How committed am I to experiencing change? How determined am on my path of growth? How brave will I be, to experience these changes and push myself out of my comfort zone?
Are you willing to dedicate the next 6 months to finding new ways to improve life? Or perhaps the next 6 weeks to reading new books that will guide you through the first steps of healing? Are you ready to work with a coach over a year, so it becomes the year that changed everything? What is your level of commitment to your own change? Are you willing to consistently make time for your self care needs?
Your commitment affects the outcome of your experience, and this is especially true when working with a coach. Are you willing to do the extra work to help yourself? Which in my form of coaching might be listening to audios at home, reading new material sent over or making a commitment to practice techniques given in between sessions.
So although I can not tell you how long it will take for change, I can tell you that when you become the priority in your own life, positive changes will naturally flow not just from you, but with you.
Love & Light Jennifer x
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